In Second Life, just like in the real world, it is very important to make friends so things are less boring. So, whether you're looking for new friends, seeking a date or longing for romance here are some tips that can help you.
- You should always ask someone if they mind if you friend them before you send them a friend request. People who have been in SL for a long time usually have a lot of people on their friends list already, so unless they make a point of helping newbies, they may not really want to add someone they don't know and may not have shared interests with. They may be happy to add you as a friend though, so it doesn't hurt to ask.
- I'd advise you to put some things in your profile, give people something to start a conversation about. Also, here it's about advertising yourself a bit, so please tell about things you like, look for, timezone.... etc. Of course, as far you're comfortable to share things, keep RL out, that might be for closer friends (if at all).
- Search is your friend! She’s a lazy friend with limited skills, but she’s mostly there when you need her, and ultimately she really does want to help. Use the drop-down in search to narrow your results.
- When you're at a cool sim or club, start off by posting a hello or question comment in public chat. Something about the music or sim theme is a good place to start. Also, try live music events for active audiences.
- The SL forums have a section for new players and people looking for friends. Just post a little bit about yourself and what your interests are. There might be someone who has posted there and might have some similar interests as you do.
- Another suggestion is to read someone's profile and send a message that relates to it. For instance, I once saw a quote in someone's profile. I shared my favorite quote from the author and thanked her for sharing a quote I hadn't heard yet. She was happy I shared the quote she hadn't heard. It's a nice way to slide into a potential conversation. Way better than 'hey how r u'
- Also, there are a lot of different classes offered in SL (about SL related stuff and non-SL), attending one of them on something you are interested in is a simple way to find people to make friends with.
None of these methods are absolutely guaranteed, but if you keep at it for a little while and do things you’re genuinely interested in, you’ll start running into intriguing people and can build a list of friends. Then, whenever you log on, you can just see if any of your friends are around and available.
The secret to making friends in SL is to remember that there is another person driving the avatar who is probably a lot like you. So, be friendly and don't pry for real life info. Just as you aren't going to tell people where you live or what you do in real life when first meeting someone, they aren't either. Don't be a jerk, there are enough of them in SL already.
Sometimes it takes a little bit of time to finally meet up with people who will become good friends, but be patient and keep checking out different places in-world as well. Good luck.
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